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Year of Break Out!! (part 2)

Hello all!

Today is July 1st!  Can y’all believe we are just over half way done with 2016?! time is moving so fast. So far it has been a very good year and I am standing in expectation for what is next to come in my life.  I am not bluffing, this year literally has been great.  I did have a hiccup with some loved ones but nothing that won’t eventually pass.  I can’t really think of anything specific that happened between the beginning of April and the end of June. School is going well. My grade point average is a 3.5. I’m hoping to get it back up once I’m done with my summer classes.

Lauren is talking…talking……talking… oh and did I say talking?? She is absolutely hilarious!  Everyday is something new and I feel more and more confident as her mother. I just feel so blessed to have her as my daughter.  I wish I could upload videos of her here. You will fall in LOVE

Something important I learned this quarter is directly tied to the strengthening of my relationship with Christ. So, this quarter I’ve been making a point to wake up early to pray, to worship and just converse with God. I am realizing the more I spend time with him, the more I understand what he wants for me. I hear his voice a lot clearer also. He gave me revelation about a particular issue  (one of my post talks about it). God will definitely answer those that seek him; I think he answers a little faster when you spend time with him (my opinion). God is certainly moving in my life and it is showing.

I wish for you all to develop a relationship with God through Christ. It is such a rewarding and fulfilling relationship; the most important that you will ever have.

Anyway, this quarter was very peaceful. It’s not to say other things haven’t happed. I’m just deciding to abide in peace!

Have a great day all!!!

Tiffany

 

 

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“Just because we are magic does not mean we’re not real.”

I don’t think I could have said it better. Here is the transcript of Jesse Williams’ speech from the 2016  BET Awards. I think this was everything that needed to be said on the behalf of all African Americans.

“Peace peace. Thank you, Debra. Thank you, BET. Thank you Nate Parker, Harry and Debbie Allen for participating in that .

Before we get into it, I just want to say I brought my parents out tonight. I just want to thank them for being here, for teaching me to focus on comprehension over career, and that they make sure I learn what the schools were afraid to teach us. And also thank my amazing wife for changing my life.

Now, this award – this is not for me. This is for the real organizers all over the country – the activists, the civil rights attorneys, the struggling parents, the families, the teachers, the students that are realizing that a system built to divide and impoverish and destroy us cannot stand if we do.

It’s kind of basic mathematics – the more we learn about who we are and how we got here, the more we will mobilize.

Now, this is also in particular for the black women in particular who have spent their lifetimes dedicated to nurturing everyone before themselves. We can and will do better for you.

Now, what we’ve been doing is looking at the data and we know that police somehow manage to deescalate, disarm and not kill white people everyday. So what’s going to happen is we are going to have equal rights and justice in our own country or we will restructure their function and ours.

Now… I got more y’all – yesterday would have been young Tamir Rice’s 14th birthday so I don’t want to hear anymore about how far we’ve come when paid public servants can pull a drive-by on 12 year old playing alone in the park in broad daylight, killing him on television and then going home to make a sandwich. Tell Rekia Boyd how it’s so much better than it is to live in 2012 than it is to live in 1612 or 1712. Tell that toEric Garner. Tell that to Sandra Bland. Tell that to Dorian Hunt.

Now the thing is, though, all of us in here getting money – that alone isn’t gonna stop this. Alright, now dedicating our lives, dedicating our lives to getting money just to give it right back for someone’s brand on our body when we spent centuries praying with brands on our bodies, and now we pray to get paid for brands on our bodies.

There has been no war that we have not fought and died on the front lines of. There has been no job we haven’t done. There is no tax they haven’t leveed against us – and we’ve paid all of them. But freedom is somehow always conditional here. “You’re free,” they keep telling us. But she would have been alive if she hadn’t acted so… free.

Now, freedom is always coming in the hereafter, but you know what, though, the hereafter is a hustle. We want it now.

And let’s get a couple things straight, just a little sidenote – the burden of the brutalized is not to comfort the bystander.That’s not our job, alright – stop with all that. If you have a critique for the resistance, for our resistance, then you better have an established record of critique of our oppression. If you have no interest, if you have no interest in equal rights for black people then do not make suggestions to those who do. Sit down.

We’ve been floating this country on credit for centuries, yo, and we’re done watching and waiting while this invention called whiteness uses and abuses us, burying black people out of sight and out of mind while extracting our culture, our dollars, our entertainment like oil – black gold, ghettoizing and demeaning our creations then stealing them, gentrifying our genius and then trying us on like costumes before discarding our bodies like rinds of strange fruit. The thing is though… the thing is that just because we’re magic doesn’t mean we’re not real.

Thank you.”

 

Black Family, Black is Beautiful, Life, Parenting

Summer Fun At The Zoo!

I probably haven’t been to the zoo since I was maybe 13 years old. Lord only knows when the last time I been to the Detroit Zoo. The last zoo I went to was the Toledo Zoo. Anyway, my boyfriend and I took my daughter to the Detroit Zoo. I am happy to have had such a fun day with the ones I love. The day was full of learning about our fury, hairless, scaly and feathered friends!! Lauren was so excited to see all the different animals. I think she really took a liking to the birds.. Enjoy!!

 

Life

We Slay! #FORMATION (Besties Edition)

At 26 years old I am pleased to say I attended my first concert.  I am even more pleased that it was the concert of one of my favorite singers, Beyoncé! I must say that I was very impressed with her vocal talent and her ability to PERFORM! From her dancers to the production crew, everything worked in sync. During her concert she talked about being proud of the person you are and where you came from. She also talked about self love. She even dedicated  the song “Halo'” to the victims of the Orlando shooting. I could feel her energy in Ford Field. It was literally magical! DJ Khaled was also in the building. He gave very encouraging words about not listening to people who say you can’t do it. He expressed his excitement of being on tour with Beyoncé also. Our surprise guest were Young Jeezy and local artist Dej Loaf.

I went to the concert with my bestie Kyaira and met up with my other close girlfriend while we were there. This was also their first concert! I am so blessed to have been in the presence of great women. We truly enjoyed ourselves and I am happy that I decided to go!

 

Concert was in Detroit, Michigan’s Ford Field on June 14, 2016.

beyonce 12Dominique, Kyaira and I before, during and after the concert!

 

FAITH, Life

GOD ANSWERS OUR PRAYERS (Personal time in the word.)

James 1: 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.

For the past month and a half I’ve been more diligent about either waking up earlier in the morning or taking time out in the evening to go before God. I pray over a lot of things including my family, friends, community, leaders, enemies and myself in my natural language and in the spirit/tongues.  One thing that I ask for when I pray is wisdom and guidance. I pray that I yearn to ask God for direction in every aspect of my life to get the best possible outcome. I know as a believer the game is already rigged. I know that I have victory and that everything the enemy meant for my demise will put me in a position to crush his head and anyone else’s who operate under his authority or influence.

Last night I got into my word seeking to find something that could assist me in with a couple scenarios that I have experienced in my life. During my study I came across Proverbs chapter 26:24-26 within the New Living Translation text. The scripture says;

“Whoever hates disguises himself with his lips and harbors deceit in his heart; when he speaks graciously, believe him not, for there are seven abominations in his heart; though his hatred be covered with deception, his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly.”

I was a bit taken back by this scripture. It was thick in essence . I needed some back text to get the full picture of where this could be going so I took the liberty of reading the full text of Proverbs chapter 26 in the New Living Translation Bible. The Chapter starting at verse one states;

Proverbs 26New Living Translation (NLT)

26 Honor is no more associated with fools
    than snow with summer or rain with harvest.

Like a fluttering sparrow or a darting swallow,
    an undeserved curse will not land on its intended victim.

Guide a horse with a whip, a donkey with a bridle,
    and a fool with a rod to his back!

Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools,
    or you will become as foolish as they are.

Be sure to answer the foolish arguments of fools,
    or they will become wise in their own estimation.

Trusting a fool to convey a message
    is like cutting off one’s feet or drinking poison!

A proverb in the mouth of a fool
    is as useless as a paralyzed leg.

Honoring a fool
    is as foolish as tying a stone to a slingshot.

A proverb in the mouth of a fool
    is like a thorny branch brandished by a drunk.

10 An employer who hires a fool or a bystander
    is like an archer who shoots at random.

11 As a dog returns to its vomit,
    so a fool repeats his foolishness.

12 There is more hope for fools
    than for people who think they are wise.

13 The lazy person claims, “There’s a lion on the road!
    Yes, I’m sure there’s a lion out there!”

14 As a door swings back and forth on its hinges,
    so the lazy person turns over in bed.

15 Lazy people take food in their hand
    but don’t even lift it to their mouth.

16 Lazy people consider themselves smarter
    than seven wise counselors.

17 Interfering in someone else’s argument
    is as foolish as yanking a dog’s ears.

18 Just as damaging
    as a madman shooting a deadly weapon
19 is someone who lies to a friend
    and then says, “I was only joking.”

20 Fire goes out without wood,
    and quarrels disappear when gossip stops.

21 A quarrelsome person starts fights
    as easily as hot embers light charcoal or fire lights wood.

22 Rumors are dainty morsels
    that sink deep into one’s heart.

23 Smooth[a] words may hide a wicked heart,
    just as a pretty glaze covers a clay pot.

24 People may cover their hatred with pleasant words,
    but they’re deceiving you.
25 They pretend to be kind, but don’t believe them.
    Their hearts are full of many evils.[b]
26 While their hatred may be concealed by trickery,
    their wrongdoing will be exposed in public.

27 If you set a trap for others,
    you will get caught in it yourself.
If you roll a boulder down on others,
    it will crush you instead.

28 A lying tongue hates its victims,
    and flattering words cause ruin.”

Proverbs Chapter 26 provided by: https://www.biblegateway.com

After reading the whole chapter I totally understood the context of this message. This message in essence describes a fool and how to address one. Again this message was very deep and it took me a minute to work out the kinks in my natural thought process to fully understand the context of this message. While reading I noticed what I thought were two conflicting messages. Verses 4 and 5 it seemed that in one verse it was saying don’t answer the foolish argument of a fool but then it says to answer so the fool won’t think that they are correct in their foolish thought. Confused, but I went on to look at some commentary regarding these two verses. Importantly,  I found that these two verses actually compliment one another instead of contradicting one another.

“Proverbs 26:4 tells us not to answer a fool according to his folly lest we be like him. In this situation, to answer the person’s silly argument or question, you would be descending to his level and end up in a pointless quarrel. The person asking this type of question does not want to be taught. Instead, he is spiritually immature and just wants to argue his point.”

&

“Proverbs 26:5 tells us that under another set of circumstances we should answer the silly or immature person “according to his folly,” responding to his line of reasoning. The answer we give should expose the weakness of his thinking. His thinking needs to be challenged, for the person’s sake, “lest he be wise in his own eyes.”

Quotes provided by:

Mike Hanisko https://lifehopeandtruth.com/relationships/communication/proverbs-26/

These two scriptures let you know when it is appropriate to answer a fool and how to answer , which is very important.  A Christian should be walk in love regardless of the situation at hand and be careful to not give into the “craftiness” of foolish talk. In essence, walk in a position of love but don’t be naïve . A great illustration for these two verses is to consider the story in Luke when Jesus was confronted by the Pharisees in regards to his authority. If you are familiar with the story, the Pharisees were trying to get Jesus “caught up” if you will to be killed. Jesus however did not give into their trap, instead Jesus answered  their question by asking a question regarding their own position.

The way Jesus answered the Pharisees is important in the context of answering fools and avoiding a situation meant to be of your demise. Consider his answer in it’s entirety. Once he gave the answer nothing else could be said.

Anther point that the website mentioned was that you shouldn’t be tempted to totally ignore a fool. I believe the author had good intention in providing this statement but sometimes I think even a right  answer said  to a certain type of person could cause it’s on issues. I will agree to disagree on that point but overall the commentary was rich.

I  am in awe of how I came across this message and how comforted I felt after reading it. It is so important to seek Gods direction in regards to your life. It is also important to converse with wise counsel and not people who have a worldly view on life. I felt so connected to God last night as I was lead from scriptures and related commentary.

Sometimes when I hear people say that the bible is an oppressive tool or other derogatory comments that you often hear; or even people saying bad things about Jesus and the Christian faith, I feel bad for them. I wish for every person to feel what I felt last night. I know in my heart that I experienced a visitation from heavenly father. I literally felt that I was sitting on the couch talking to my dad. That’s exactly how intimate it was.

In closing remember that wisdom is the principle thing as stated in Proverbs 4:7. God is so good and all he wants for us is to have a good life.  He is so willing to tell you what you need to do and the bible provides that direction. The more you are willing to read his word and submit to it I believe the more he will draw near. Also remember that God is a gentleman. He will not bombard you with his presence unwantedly. You have to seek him and he will answer; even tell you where to find the answer!

Be wise and give the enemy no room to take you out of love and faith. The word is alive and it works without reproach. Stand firm.

Tiffany

Black is Beautiful, Life

Couples That I Admire (How imperfections become so perfect)

#Relationship goals, a popular hast tag that you will eventually come across on social media. I must admit that while I do not aspire to have a relationship like anyone else but the one I am currently in, I can appreciate some of the characteristics and lessons that you can learn from the relationships you see in the spotlight. Married couples such as the Curry’s (Ayesha and Steph Curry), the Franklins (Megan Good and Devon Franklin), and engaged couple Ciara and Russell Wilson. What I like most and can appreciate about all of these couples is there reverence for Christ in their relationships. From abstaining to sex to openly acknowledging their faith, it is no secrete that these couples focus and center is their Christian Faith. Another thing I can appreciate about two of these women is that they have “lived” if you will. They weren’t the Proverbs 31 woman to give a better description or at least they weren’t portrayed that way in the media. I’m not sure of what their factual background consist of but it may be safe to say they have a past. What I like about Megan Good is that she opened herself to be very relatable and transparent when talking about her past in relation to where she is today as a married woman. I like that she and her husband openly talked about refraining from sex until they were married. I also like that Ciara and Russell Wilson followed in those suit. Although Ciara obviously has a child out of marriage, she was able to move on with her life and find someone who loves and respects her and her son. As a  mother who is not with my daughter’s father, I could appreciate her story (outside of the personal matters w/ future).  The lessons that you learn from these women is that it’s ok to be in a  relationship , or start over and to change your expectations in a relationship. It is ok to wait for a man who has a relationship with Christ that goes beyond him blessing his food. The true lesson that I have learned from these three relationships in essence is that a God centered relationship brings forth a  success one. That is what a true relationship goal should consist of.

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Hey Bestfriend!

Kyaira and I have been friends since the 4th grade, which would have made us about 9 or 10 years old. She is very kind and always willing to listen to me ramble, mild or on 100. My earliest memories with Kyaira consist of being in beginners band at The Academy of Fine and Performing Arts East in Detroit, Michigan. We both played clarinet well and both enjoyed similar things as kids. There was a period of separation during middle school but we never stopped being friends. Anytime we did talk it was like no time had passed at all. Today as 26 year old and  we are still best friends. Of all of my friends with the exception of a few, I think Kyaira actually understands me the most and the best.I guess when you have been friends for so long and since an earlier age, It’s could only be right to understand a person internally. She has seen me through so much stuff whether I was wrong or right and I truly adore my girly! We are both moms now to little girls who are almost two years old. She is such a great mom and one that I can say that I genuinely admire. I pray for her continuously to have success, love, and a great life.

Life

Consider Your Words

Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit. Psalm 18:21

 

Lately I’ve been reconditioning myself. It has been a process but I take it one day at a time. One random day, I decided to look up what it meant to be a contentious woman. I think because I am in a healthy and serious relationship with someone, I thought it would be worth looking into.  One thing that I notice continuously when I looked at scriptures pertaining to this particular subject was the attitude and the patterns of this woman. While the bible does not  give specific instances or verbiage that the woman uses, it does distinctively mention that this woman isn’t pleasant .

In a more broader sense, outside of romantic relationships I wanted to explore the speaking patterns of a “contentious woman” or any person in general. I learned at a very young age that words have a creative nature. Our whole universe was created with the words that God spoke into utter darkness. I believe because we are created in the image of God that we also possess that same authority to speak things into existence, good and bad.

I’ve tried to be careful of how I address situations or people, especially if it’s not pleasant.  The bible says  in Psalm 18:21 that Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat it’s fruit. This statement alone speaks volumes. Essentially it’s the same as the law of seed, sowing and harvest. If you plant bad seeds with your words you will reap the product of those words.

Imagine the words you use everyday to describe your life, yourself or other people. I remember when I made a statement in front of my uncle years ago as I described the way I felt about something. His response to me was to consider my words and explained to me what I said (what a great uncle he is!). That always stuck with me. Now that I am older and I have experienced “life” I feel that I can elaborate on the concept of watching your mouth to save you from yourself.

I think when I was younger I was a little more sharp tongued, raw, the tell it like it is and not how it should be said type (thank GOD for deliverance!). In my mind if it needed to be said it would be. Nothing about me was humble when it came to me expressing my opinion, especially if you asked me what I thought about something.

Now I can see the importance of speaking positively or not saying anything at all. Sometimes when I’m on Facebook and I see people speaking negatively about their own families, friends, relationships, others peoples business, their own lives, jobs and the like I think of the lives they will live in the future. I have been guilty of this too, again everyday is a process. What I have learned over the years is that the creative nature of my words can hinder me from being prosperous and at some point I will have to give an account to empty words (Matthew 12:36). I use to be notorious for telling people to “go to hell” and if I didn’t say it, I definitely thought it (again growth.com). Besides saying a bunch of useless stuff whether other people agree or not does not bring prosperity. Saying Detroit is a hell whole, the infamous I’m going to be single forever, I hate my job, life, him her, I’m broke or whatever does not change a situation for the better. As a matter of fact, by speaking negatively you only open the door for the enemy to wreak-havoc in your own life.

The book of proverbs or the book of wisdom says a lot about talking to much.

Proverbs 30:32 – If thou hast done foolishly in lifting up thyself, or if thou hast thought evil, [lay] thine hand upon thy mouth.

Proverbs 15:1-33 – A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.   (Read More…)

Proverbs 12:18 – There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise [is] health.

Proverbs 18:21 – Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

Proverbs 29:20 – Seest thou a man [that is] hasty in his words? [there is] more hope of a fool than of him.

Proverbs 18:2 – A fool hath no delight in understanding, but that his heart may discover itself.

Proverbs 21:23 – Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles

Proverbs 10:19 – In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips [is] wise.

Proverbs 17:28 – Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: [and] he that shutteth his lips [is esteemed] a man of understanding.

When you read each scripture it all says the same thing. Talking too much gets you into trouble or it brings some type of strife and it make you look like a fool.. I know during a few trying situations in my life I wanted to argue to set the record straight, call some people to the floor, and use a whole lot of choice words. In my spirit though I always felt the need to say nothing. I think those times were the most pivotal in regards to the outcome.  God cannot move in a place where you are not speaking his word and where is confusion and contentiousness.  He created his word so he is moved by his word.

As I grow more into my uniqueness as a woman of God I try to be more mindful of what I say. Speaking life into yourself and others is so important. You literally cannot give place to the enemy in anyway. In James 3:10 it says  “And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right!” So at all times we must be mindful. You can’t be holier than thou one minute and gossiping the next minute. It just doesn’t work like that in the laws of prosperity when it comes to reaping a good fruit.

To bring this full circle and to express my thoughts on being contentious I also want to add that their is a time for everything. At times, I do think it is right to defend your reputation or to stand up for what you believe in. By no means am I saying lay on the floor and allow others to throw salt on you. However, there is a time and place for that. There is also a more tactful way to address situation of any capacity. I believe in following your spirit. There have been times when it was the right time to openly address something and at other times, I was told to hush. Those were usually the times when God was setting my table… So I leave you all with the wise words of my uncle, “consider your words”.

May your words produce great fruit and prosperity!

Tiffany